Interfaith Families

Beth Or strives to be a welcoming and inclusive place for all, and as a result we have a significant number of interfaith families in our community. We are proud to offer opportunities for our interfaith families to learn about Judaism with guidance from our clergy, share experiences with each other, develop connections and friendships, celebrate Jewish holidays and incorporate them into your home in a way that works for your family.  

FAQs for Interfaith Families

Are Interfaith families welcome at Beth Or?

Absolutely. We pride ourselves on being an inclusive and welcoming community.

Can Interfaith families be members of Beth Or?

Yes. We welcome interfaith families who are choosing to affiliate and celebrate their Jewish heritage.

Does my partner need to convert for us to get married?   

No. While we support conversion so that there is unity of faith in the new home, we do not require conversion for our clergy to officiate.

Will the Rabbi marry Interfaith couples?

Both Rabbi Bonder and Rabbi Lefkowitz are honored to perform the ceremony. Speak with either rabbi to learn about what happens and the parameters when they officiate your interfaith wedding. Cantor Murley is also available to officiate at interfaith marriage ceremonies.

If my partner decides at a later date to convert, does Beth Or offer assistance and support?

Yes. Please contact the clergy directly for more information.

If we choose to raise our children as Jewish,  how is my Interfaith partner included in life events, such as Bar/Bat Mitzvah, weddings, etc.?

Non-Jews are welcome to sit on the pulpit and participate in all aspects, except certain prayers which affirm the unique covenant with Israel and Mount Sinai. In other words, non-Jews can open the ark, recite certain blessings, but are asked not recite the Hebrew blessings before the Torah, as they are the closest thing to a statement of faith. Instead, non-Jews are invited to recite an English personal prayer.

How can my Interfaith partner participate in our child/children’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah?

Your partner is able to participate in a way that does not compromise their principles and is respectful to the Jewish faith.

My Interfaith partner doesn’t know Hebrew.  Is there something in English that explains the service and prayers available for them to follow along?

Yes. We have service supplements that explain the service in detail.

Does Beth Or offer any support for Interfaith families?

Yes. We have a congregant-run C4C (Clubs for Community) Interfaith group which is tailored to the participants' dynamic interests and needs -- educational programs, social activities, etc. The group is always welcoming, supportive and always evolving.

Are there classes available at Beth Or for Interfaith families or non-Jewish members to have a better understanding of Judaism and Jewish Life?

Yes.  Rabbi Lefkowitz teaches Introduction to Judaism, an 18-session class that runs every other year. Rabbi Bonder teaches a 5-week re-intro to Judaism class which is also beneficial for interfaith couples. Rabbi Bonder also offers a 1 hour class that takes place in the sanctuary and explains the Shabbat service and B'nai Mitzvah service, so that everyone is comfortable when attending services at Beth Or.

If we have any questions about our Interfaith family, is the rabbi and/or cantor available to meet with us?

Of course. Whether it is one of the rabbis, the cantor or anyone else involved with Beth Or, there is always someone to help answer any questions you have.